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54. My Child Is the “Difficult One”—Now What?

Is your child the one who melts down the fastest, argues the loudest, or just always seems… harder to parent than the others?
Do you ever find yourself asking:👉 “Why is this so hard with this child?”👉 “Am I doing something wrong?”👉 “What if I mess them up?”👉 Or worse… what if something is wrong with them?”
You are NOT alone.And your child is not broken.
In this powerful and deeply personal episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on what it means to raise a child who is strong-willed, emotionally volatile, neurodivergent, or just wired a little differently. Whether your child is on the spectrum, has ADHD, or simply feels everything big—this episode is for you.
You’ll learn how to:
✅ Reframe “difficult behavior” through curiosity, not control✅ Recognize the 3 unhealthy roles of the Unhappy Kid Triangle (UHKT)✅ Step out of your own triggered reactions and parent with Spirit-led wisdom✅ Use the Happy Kid Toolkit to teach emotional regulation, responsibility, and self-control✅ See your child—and yourself—through the eyes of God, not shame
Plus, I’m sharing real-life examples from my journey parenting my own neurodivergent son, who is now 22 and thriving with the same tools we started using 15+ years ago.
🔥 This episode will challenge you, comfort you, and equip you for the healing journey ahead.
xoxo,
Danielle
💛 Ready to go deeper?
📥 Download the FREE 14-Day Teen Devotional: You Are Not AloneIncludes a parent guide → Download here
🎯 Take the UHKT Role QuizWhich one do you default to in conflict? → Discover Your Go-To Position
🌿 Join me for the Women’s Healing Retreat: Renew & RestoreSeptember 18-21 in Chattanooga, Tennessee → Reserve Your Spot
🛠️ Get the Happy Kid ToolkitThe system that changed our family → Buy Now
💬 Book a 1:1 Biblical Counseling or Family Coaching SessionLet’s walk this journey together → Book a Session
🎉 Join the private Facebook community → The Happy Family Coach Podcast Community
 

53. Christlike Love Is Not Compliance

Breaking Free from Generational Fear, Religious Control, and People-Pleasing Love
Have you ever been told that staying silent was the “Christlike” thing to do?That setting boundaries is selfish?That confronting sin is unloving?
Friend, you are not alone—and you are not crazy.
In this powerful episode, Danielle Alvarez Greer shares her personal journey through spiritual abuse, generational patterns of compliance, emotional manipulation, and church hurt—and how Jesus radically transformed her understanding of love, truth, and holy boldness.
You’ll discover:
Why Christlike love is not the same as silence or tolerance
How fear, guilt, and people-pleasing keep us trapped in fake peace
What compliance with sin looks like in real-life relationships (marriage, parenting, ministry, friendship, and more)
How to recognize spiritual abuse and escape the Unhappy Kid Triangle
What Jesus actually modeled—bold love, holy confrontation, and freedom
This episode will give you language for your experience, healing for your heart, and courage to walk in truth—even when it’s hard.
📖 Featuring scriptural truth, personal story, practical tools, and powerful reflection questions.
 
🔗 Subscribe & Stay Connected:
🎧 Listen on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Podbean | YouTube
➡️ Book a family coaching or biblical counseling session with me: Book Now
➡️ Purchase the Happy Kid Toolkit: www.happykidtoolkit.com 
➡️ Schedule a FREE on-air family counseling session with me. Click here to learn more and sign-up
👉 Get your FREE e-book, "The Healing Mirror: Turning Pain into Purpose," a guide to self-reflection, boundaries, and spiritual growth. Click here to subscribe and instantly receive your free e-book.
➡️ Discover your go-to position/role on the Unhappy Kid Triangle by downloading the quiz here
➡️ Join us for the “Renew & Restore” Women’s Healing Retreat — September 18–21, 2025 in Chattanooga, TN. For women and young women (ages 17+) who are ready to heal, rest, and reconnect with God. Learn more + register: Reserve Your Spot Now
➡️ Download the FREE 14-Day Teen Devotional: You Are Not AlonePerfect for teens struggling with anxiety, trauma, or emotional overwhelm. Download here.
➡️ Engage and share your answers in my FB group: The Happy Family Coach Podcast Community
📲 Follow me on Instagram: @thehappyfamilycoach for daily encouragement
💌 Join my email list: Exclusive content, free resources, and updates! 

52. When Teens Are Hurting: A Christian Guide to Understanding and Supporting Teen Trauma

When your teen is hurting, it can feel overwhelming, heartbreaking, and confusing. You may see signs of anger, anxiety, self-harm, or withdrawal — and not know what to do next. In this powerful and personal episode, Danielle Alvarez Greer shares her own story of trauma, eating disorders, and emotional pain — and how Jesus met her there and brought healing.
You’ll learn how trauma often hides beneath the surface of teen behavior, how to respond with compassion and biblical wisdom, and why your teen doesn’t need a perfect parent — they need a present one.
This episode will equip you with Christ-centered tools to help your teen feel seen, safe, and supported — while reminding you that you are not alone on this journey.
💬 In this episode, you’ll discover:
How trauma can show up as rebellion, defiance, or emotional shutdown
What teens are really looking for when they act out
Why spiritualizing pain can silence healing — and what to do instead
How to bring Jesus into your teen’s story without pressure or performance
Real-life examples of what grace-filled, Gospel-centered parenting looks like
✨ Resources & Next Steps
➡️ Book a biblical counseling or family coaching session with Danielle (Zoom or in-person):Book Now
➡️ Join us for the “Renew & Restore” Women’s Healing Retreat — September 18–21, 2025 in beautiful Chattanooga, Tennessee.For women and young women (ages 17+) who are ready to heal, rest, and reconnect with God.Learn more + register: Reserve Your Spot Now
➡️ Get the FREE 14-Day Devotional for TeensTruth, healing & hope for teens + a Parent Guide.👉 Grab Your Free Devotional Now
➡️ Join the Facebook community for encouragement and support:The Happy Family Coach Podcast Community
You are not failing. You are not alone. And your family is not too far gone for God to restore.

51. How to Parent Teens with Wisdom & Grace — A Christian Guide to Discipline, Communication, and Connection

Parenting teens can feel like an emotional rollercoaster—one moment they need you, the next they push you away. But what if you could navigate this season with wisdom, grace, and Spirit-led confidence?
In this powerful episode, Danielle Alvarez Greer equips you with biblical tools to parent your teen with emotional intelligence, healthy boundaries, and deep connection. You’ll learn how to:
✨ Understand your teen’s emotional world and brain development✨ Identify the toxic roles of the Unhappy Kid Triangle—and how to break free✨ Apply the Happy Kid Toolkit to teach self-control and maturity✨ Avoid power struggles by becoming a self-aware, Spirit-led parent✨ Balance discipline with grace—and disciple your teen toward Christ
Whether you’re exhausted by the drama, confused by the defiance, or desperate to reconnect with your teen’s heart, this episode offers you biblical hope and real help.
🙋‍♀️ Want more support? Here’s how we can walk this journey together:
💬 Book a 1:1 Biblical Counseling or Family Coaching Session:Need personalized help with your teen, your parenting, or your own heart? Let’s walk together.👉 Schedule Now
📦 Get The Happy Kid Toolkit:Break generational cycles, heal emotional wounds, and raise emotionally healthy kids who walk in truth.👉 Buy Now
➡️ Get the FREE 14-Day Devotional for TeensTruth, healing & hope for teens + a Parent Guide.👉 Grab Your Free Devotional Now
 

50. 50 Truths for Thriving Families: Wisdom for Healing & Transformation

🚀 We made it to EPISODE 50!! 🎉 This is a HUGE milestone, and I couldn’t have done it without YOU—our amazing community of families who are dedicated to healing, growth, and transformation!
To celebrate this special episode, we’re diving into 50 powerful truths that will help your family break free from unhealthy patterns, grow in faith, and build a thriving, Christ-centered home. This isn’t just another episode—this is a blueprint for lasting change!
💡 In this milestone episode, you’ll discover:✅ How to renew your mind and break generational cycles ✨✅ Why prayer and faith are essential for a thriving family 🙏✅ Practical wisdom for parenting, marriage, and emotional health ❤️✅ How to fight for unity instead of just "being right" in relationships 🤝✅ The power of God’s grace to redeem your family’s story 🙌
🎯 SPECIAL 50TH EPISODE CHALLENGE: Pick 3 truths from this episode that spoke to you, write them down, and start applying them this week! Then, share your biggest takeaway on social media and tag @thehappyfamilycoach so we can celebrate together!
🎙 Let’s make this our most impactful episode yet—share it with a friend who needs encouragement today!
🔗 Subscribe & Stay Connected:🎧 Listen on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Podbean
Book a family coaching or biblical counseling session with me: Schedule Now
Purchase the Happy Kid Toolkit: www.happykidtoolkit.com
Schedule a FREE on-air family counseling session with me. Click here to learn more and sign-up
👉 Get your FREE e-book, "The Healing Mirror: Turning Pain into Purpose," a guide to self-reflection, boundaries, and spiritual growth. Click here to subscribe and instantly receive your free e-book.
➡️ Join us for the “Renew & Restore” Women’s Healing Retreat — September 18–21, 2025 in beautiful Chattanooga, Tennessee.For women and young women (ages 17+) who are ready to heal, rest, and reconnect with God.Learn more + register: Reserve Your Spot Now
➡️ Get the FREE 14-Day Devotional for TeensTruth, healing & hope for teens + a Parent Guide.👉 Grab Your Free Devotional Now
#Episode50 #PodcastMilestone #FamilyHealing #ChristianParenting #FaithBasedPodcast #GenerationalHealing #MarriageWisdom #BreakingCycles #RenewYourMind #ChristianFamilyLeadership

49. Breaking Free from the Bossy Helper Role – Stop Over-Controlling & Trust God (Unhappy Kid Triangle Part 3

🔥 Do you feel like the glue holding everything together—but inside, you're exhausted, unseen, and maybe even resentful?
You give, give, give—because you believe it's the right thing to do. You take care of everyone else’s needs, sacrificing your own, because deep down, you hope that if you just love hard enough, serve well enough, fix enough… someone will finally see you. Someone will appreciate you. Someone will tell you you matter.
But no matter how much you do, it never feels like enough. And if you're honest, you're starting to wonder… when is it your turn?
💔 This is the trap of the Bossy Helper Role.
In Part 3 of our Unhappy Kid Triangle Mini-Series, we’re pulling back the curtain on the hidden wounds and unmet needs that keep you stuck in this cycle of over-helping, over-functioning, and over-controlling. More importantly, you’ll learn why this exhausting way of living is not the life God has for you—and how to finally step into freedom.
In This Episode, We’ll Unpack:
✅ Why your worth is NOT based on what you do for others✅ The lie that if you help long enough, hard enough, they’ll finally see you✅ The 4 warning signs that you’re giving from an empty place✅ Why “helping” can actually be hurting your relationships and keeping you from real connection✅ The root fear driving your need to fix, manage, and control everything✅ How to shift from Bossy Helper to Caring Friend—someone who trusts, supports, and loves without losing themselves✅ God’s heart for YOU—not just for what you do, but for who you are
🚨 If you feel invisible, exhausted, and unappreciated for all you do… this episode is for you. It’s time to release the weight of being the fixer and step into the peace of knowing you are already enough.
🎧 Listen now, and take your next step toward freedom.
👉 Don’t miss the rest of this series!
Part 1: The Helpless Baby Role – Breaking Free from Victim Mindset
Part 2: The Blaming Bully Role – Overcoming Anger & Control
🔥 This episode might be the breakthrough you’ve been waiting for. Don’t keep carrying this alone—hit play now.
 
May the Lord bless you.
xoxo,
Danielle
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Next Practical Steps:
1. Book a family coaching or biblical counseling session with me: Schedule Now
2. Purchase the Happy Kid Toolkit: www.happykidtoolkit.com 
3. Schedule a FREE on-air family counseling session with me. Click here to learn more and sign-up
4. 👉 Get your FREE e-book, "The Healing Mirror: Turning Pain into Purpose," a guide to self-reflection, boundaries, and spiritual growth. Click here to subscribe and instantly receive your free e-book.
5. Discover your go-to position/role on the Unhappy Kid Triangle by downloading the quiz here
6. Engage and share your answers in my FB group: The Happy Family Coach Podcast Community
7. Follow me on Instagram: @thehappyfamilycoach

48. Breaking Free from the Blaming Bully Role: Overcoming Anger & Control (Unhappy Kid Triangle - Part 2)

Are you stuck in the cycle of anger, control, and blame? Do you find yourself lashing out, overpowering others, or feeling constantly frustrated when things don’t go your way? Maybe deep down, you feel like a victim, but your response is to push harder, fight back, or make others "do things right."
If so, this episode is for you.
In Episode 48 of The Happy Family Coach Podcast, we continue our Unhappy Kid Triangle Mini-Series by diving into The Blaming Bully Role—the mindset that justifies blame, control, and attack in the name of self-protection.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:
✅ What the Blaming Bully Role REALLY is (and why it feels so justified)✅ Why we fall into anger and control instead of trusting God✅ How the Blaming Bully moves into the Helpless Baby & Bossy Helper roles✅ Signs you’re stuck in this mindset (and how to break free!)✅ Why willpower won’t fix it—only the Holy Spirit can truly transform you✅ How to move from control to trust and from frustration to peace
🚨 Here’s the truth: The Blaming Bully believes they are the victim—and that belief fuels the cycle of attack, criticism, and manipulation. But God has a better way!
You don’t have to fight for control.You don’t have to let frustration lead you.You don’t have to stay in this cycle.
It’s time to let go, surrender, and walk in the peace that only comes from trusting God.
🔗 Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
✨ Book a Biblical Counseling or Family Coaching Session → Schedule Now📘 Get the Happy Kid Toolkit → click to buy✉️ Join My Email List for Exclusive Women’s Retreat Updates → Subscribe here🎙️ Subscribe to the Podcast for the Next Episode in This Series!
🙏 Let’s Stay Connected!
✔️ Follow me on Instagram & Facebook @thehappyfamilycoach for encouragement & updates✔️ Leave a review on Apple Podcasts & Spotify to help more people find this message✔️ Share this episode with a friend who needs it!
🔥 Next Week: We’re tackling The Bossy Helper Role—how trying to "fix" and "help" everyone actually keeps us stuck and exhausted. Make sure you're subscribed so you don’t miss it!
💡 Final Thought: You are not bound to blame, anger, or control. You are deeply loved, fully equipped, and called to freedom. It’s time to break free. 💛
🎧 Listen now and take the first step toward real transformation! 🎙️✨
 

47. Feeling Stuck? Breaking Free from Helplessness & the Helpless Baby Role (Unhappy Kid Triangle – Part 1)

Do you ever feel powerless—like life is happening to you, and no matter what you do, you just can’t move forward?
👉 Maybe you’re waiting for things to change.👉 Maybe you’re hoping someone will step in and rescue you.👉 Maybe deep down, you believe you don’t have what it takes to handle what’s in front of you.
That’s the Helpless Baby role in action. It’s a mindset that keeps us stuck in self-pity, waiting for rescue, and believing the lie that we’re powerless. But here’s the truth:
🚨 You are NOT helpless. You are NOT stuck. The same power that raised Jesus from the dead lives in YOU! (Romans 8:11)
In this episode, we’re diving into:✅ What the Helpless Baby role is & why it keeps us trapped in frustration.✅ How to recognize the signs in your life & relationships.✅ Why willpower alone won’t set you free (and what will).✅ The real cost of staying stuck in this role.✅ How the Holy Spirit leads us into true strength & freedom.
It’s time to stop waiting for someone else to fix your situation. It’s time to step into the strength God has already given you. 💪
🔥 Are you ready to break free? Hit play now! 🎧
💡 Want to go deeper? Here’s how:📩 Grab my FREE eBook "The Healing Mirror: Turning Pain into Purpose," a guide to self-reflection, boundaries, and spiritual growth. Click here to subscribe and instantly receive your free e-book.
🎒 Get the Happy Kid Toolkit for step-by-step transformation → www.happykidtoolkit.com👩‍💻 Book a 1:1 Biblical Counseling or Family Coaching Session → Schedule Now📆 Join my upcoming Women’s Healing Retreat! Be the first to get updates → Subscribe
✨ If this episode blessed you, please take a moment to:✔️ Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify—it helps others find this message!✔️ Share this episode with a friend who needs encouragement.✔️ Tag me on Instagram or Facebook @thehappyfamilycoach and let me know your biggest takeaway!
🔥 Next Week: The Blaming Bully Role – Why We Lash Out & How to Break the Cycle. Subscribe now so you don’t miss it!
May the Lord bless you.
xoxo,
Danielle
 

46. Winning the Battle in Your Mind: How to Take Every Thought Captive

🚨 Are you tired of battling negative thoughts? Do you ever feel like your mind is working against you, pulling you into fear, anxiety, or self-doubt?
The enemy attacks first in our minds, but here’s the good news: you don’t have to stay stuck!
In this power-packed episode, Danielle Alvarez Greer dives deep into how to take every thought captive, break free from limiting beliefs, and allow the Holy Spirit to renew your mind daily. Using biblical wisdom, the Happy Kid Toolkit, and practical strategies, you’ll learn how to:
✔ Recognize negative thought patterns before they take over✔ Identify the source of your thoughts—is it from God, the enemy, or past wounds?✔ Use the Happy Kid Thought Filter to shift from fear to faith✔ Replace toxic beliefs with scripture-based truth✔ Partner with the Holy Spirit for real, lasting transformation
🔥 You are not powerless over your thoughts! The Holy Spirit is your Helper, and He wants to lead you into a renewed mind and victorious life.
🎧 Press play now and start shifting your mindset with the Holy Spirit today!
🔗 Want to go deeper?✨ Book a Biblical Counseling or Family Session → Schedule Now✨ Get the Happy Kid Toolkit for your home, classroom, or workplace → www.happykidtoolkit.com ✨ Join my Women’s Healing Retreat (September 2025 – details coming soon!) → Subscribe to my newsletter at happyfamilycoach.com for early access to registration & updates!✨ Schedule a FREE on-air family counseling session with me → Click here to learn more and sign-up✨ Get your FREE e-book, "The Healing Mirror: Turning Pain into Purpose," a guide to self-reflection, boundaries, and spiritual growth → Click here to subscribe and instantly receive your free e-book.✨ Discover your go-to position on the Unhappy Kid Triangle by downloading the quiz → here ✨ Engage and share in my FB group → The Happy Family Coach Podcast Community✨ Follow me on Instagram → @thehappyfamilycoach
📩 Let’s connect! Leave a written review on Apple Podcasts or send me a DM on Instagram at @thehappyfamilycoach—I’d love to hear how the Holy Spirit is renewing your mind!
#FaithOverFear #RenewYourMind #TakeEveryThoughtCaptive #MindsetShift #ChristianMindset #HolySpiritLed #BreakFree #BiblicalHealing #HappyKidToolkit #TheHappyFamilyCoach
 

45. What You Believe About Yourself Shapes Your Life: How to Identify and Heal Core Lies

🚨 What if the biggest thing holding you back isn’t your circumstances—but the lies you believe about yourself?
👉 Have you ever felt like you’re not enough? That you have to prove your worth? That no matter how much you try, you’ll never truly be loved, seen, or valued? These deep-seated thoughts aren’t just passing doubts—they are core beliefs that silently shape your identity, choices, relationships, and even your faith. And here’s the truth: if they aren’t aligned with God’s Word, they’re keeping you stuck.
🔥 In this power-packed episode, I’m helping you uncover the core lies that have been running in the background of your mind for years—maybe even decades. You’ll learn how to:✔️ Identify subconscious beliefs that have shaped your self-worth.✔️ Pinpoint where these core lies came from (family, past wounds, or cultural messages).✔️ Use biblical truth and the Happy Kid Toolkit to rewrite false narratives.✔️ Walk through a guided reflection exercise to shift your mindset today.
💡 It’s time to stop letting old lies define your future. God’s truth says you are worthy, chosen, and loved. This episode will help you break free from limiting beliefs and step into the life He created for you.
🎧 Press play now and start your journey to healing and transformation!
🔥 If this episode speaks to you, share it with a friend who needs this truth today!
May the Lord bless you.
xoxo,
Danielle
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Next Practical Steps:
1. Book a family coaching or biblical counseling session with me: Schedule Now
2. Purchase the Happy Kid Toolkit: www.happykidtoolkit.com 
3. Schedule a FREE on-air family counseling session with me. Click here to learn more and sign-up
4. 👉 Get your FREE e-book, "The Healing Mirror: Turning Pain into Purpose," a guide to self-reflection, boundaries, and spiritual growth. Click here to subscribe and instantly receive your free e-book.
5. Discover your go-to position/role on the Unhappy Kid Triangle by downloading the quiz here
6. Engage and share your answers in my FB group: The Happy Family Coach Podcast Community
7. Follow me on Instagram: @thehappyfamilycoach