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66. The Labels We Carry: How Childhood Roles Shape Adult Identity

What if the way you show up in marriage, parenting, and conflict isn’t who you truly are—but a role you learned to play as a child to survive dysfunction, earn love, or avoid pain?
In today’s powerful and eye-opening episode, we will peel back the layers of childhood dysfunctional roles—like The Fixer, The Rebel, The Black Sheep, The Hero/Golden Child, The Invisible Child, The Responsible One, and The Peacemaker—and discover how these roles silently shape our adult identity, relationships, and even our faith.

Drawing from the Happy Kid Toolkit, scripture, personal coaching stories, and family systems research, this episode will help you:

Recognize the core beliefs fueling your emotional reactions
Identify when you’re operating on the Unhappy Kid Triangle
Understand why certain triggers, expectations, or relational dynamics feel so hard
Learn to respond from a place of truth instead of trauma
Break generational cycles and begin healing the legacy you're passing down

Includes practical role-playing scenarios (unhealthy vs. healthy), biblical encouragement, neuroscience-backed insights on ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences), and a gospel-centered invitation to step out of false identity and into your Spirit-led, God-given design.

💡 Whether you're a parent, spouse, counselor, or someone longing to understand yourself more deeply—this episode is a must-listen.

🛠️ Grab your Happy Kid Toolkit, journal, and a cup of coffee—because it’s time to do the healing work that changes everything.

xoxo,

Danielle

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